I don't post much on this blog anymore because well, I'm beginning to understand how important it is to keep things to yourself. While I'm not trying to hide anything, I also don't need to share every bit of me with the world. (Plus i don't think we really need another Utahn with a blog.) But I stick with what I've said before, "Social Media is important when it comes to sharing goodness". And that is exactly what I want to share here.
Recently I've been having many different thoughts and feelings about this certain topic, the topic being friendship. I felt I needed to write down all these thoughts and after many journal pages I've ended up here with the intentions of sharing this with anyone who wants to read it. I'm not naming names or singling out any of my friend is this because I think it's pretty easy to tell who in my life is most important to me. That is not what this post is about. It is merely about friendships them selves and what they mean to me.
In my life I have been blessed with many friends, some close and some more "friendly acquaintances" . The one thing I've always longed for is a "Best Friend". One single person who grew up with me since I was little, someone who's been there through thick and thin. While some people are lucky enough to have this, I have not been. I have many people who've gown up with me. But none that I can say were always that single friend. I've spent years beating myself up over this wondering why no one cared enough to be MY best friend. Because of this I learned exactly what it means to be, a "Best Friend"
We let people believe that we can only have one single "Best Friend". That by calling them that we single them out above all of our other friends. This person has to have done something special to receive this title. But over time I have learned that we can have multiple Best Friends. And there are no rules when it comes to them. If one day a friend is kind you in a way they never have been before than maybe that day they are your "Best Friend". The next day if another friend makes you laugh when you've been having a hard time maybe then -for just a moment- they are your "Best Friend". It's exactly that, it's a moment, it's a title used to say "look what this person did for me, they deserve recognition!" When the moment is over we can move on and recognize someone else.
To own this title should be an honor for you not matter how long it lasts. Being someones Best Friend does not mean that they have to be yours, while you may be changing someones life and helping them along the way. Earning you that honorable title. Someone else might be doing the same for you. In your eyes that person would be your "Best Friend", It's like a cycle. This is something that I've had to learn to understand over the past years. I've had to understand why people who are so close to me had to walk away. And see that it's given me the opportunities to meet the people in my life now. And as time goes on I'm sure the cycle will continue.
One thing I know is true is that no matter how time passes memories don't change. They may fade or become distant but the moment the actually memory will not change. And living in those memories for short moments at a time are what truly make friendships last forever. Every single friendship will last forever if you let it. Friendships are so important to me. When you really thing of it the idea of friendships is truly amazing. We are all given families, good or bad they are ours. But friends, that something we can pick. We choose to let these people alter and affect our lives for better or for worse. It's remarkable if you ask me. It's something I feel honored to do, to leave my mark on people and know that I may have changed their life in whatever time I had. It's an honor.
Everyone is different and while some moments are for sharing, some are also for keeping to yourself. Some friendships aren't for show or for perks some are deep and meaningful more so than words can describe. It's amazing to me the private connections we can make with so many different people. There are thing said intimately and privately between two people that the world will never know about. These connections are what build and create the wold around us. I love the idea of being molded and made by the powerful and kind relationships I've had. I know I have had the opportunity to call many people my Best Friend, and I look forward to the many more I will find in this life time.
"Intimacy is a mysterious thing. It means different things to different people. It can be a closeness that's both emotional or physical. Intimacy can also be a private truth that when glimpsed by another, leave you feeling exposed. And then there's intimacy that comes with friendship. People you can be fully yourself with."